Because I love story in all its many forms, each month I’ll be adding an interview to my blog. I’ve invited Marie Maguire, a spiritual counselor and hypnotherapist to join me this month. I met Marie at her Meetup, NF Cafe, in Tucson, Arizona. She is the author of “Living Loved: a path to peace” and has a series of videos on YouTube.
Marie, thank you for your willingness to be my first interview! For those who might not be familiar with the Myers Briggs temperament test, can you explain what it means to be an NF and describe the magic that happens when NFs get together?
An NF, or intuitive feeler, experiences the world differently than 90% of the population, making most of us feel different, because we are! Although we use the traditional five senses (seeing, hearing, etc) like everyone else, they are running in the background. Our primary way of tasting and approaching the world is through our intuitive and feeling cognitive functions. The magic happens during our gatherings because NFs speak the same language, and don’t need to go into the contortionist communication modes that we normally need do with other temperament types. There are no explanations needed. We relax with other NFs and flow into the deeper meanings of life, the universe, and everything!
In our meetings, you’ve talked about the practice of nonviolent communication. Can you introduce my readers to this concept and give an example that can be easily applied to our daily lives?
Our everyday language is violent when we label, compare, demand, diagnose, and utter judgements on our self or others. Nonviolent or Compassionate Communication is taking the YOU…out of our sentences and saying what we need. For example: Can’t you ever be quiet! Instead becomes: I need some quiet right now. Please turn down the TV.
Here is an example from my own life. I attended a meeting to hear a speaker. A half hour into the start time the group was still talking about the weather. It took me several minutes to find a compassionate way (in my head) to word my desire for us to get the meeting rolling. Finally I said, “I notice that I’m looking forward to hearing our speaker!” And that got it going without anyone feeling judged or offended.
The majority of relationship troubles stem from unintentionally, unwittingly using violent or non-compassionate communication styles. How much more peaceful will our lives be when we learn how to speak compassionately to one another! Let it be so.
When (this) happens, I feel (angry, scared, sad) because I need (yep, you’ve got to say your need or desire out loud). Therefore, I would like to (propose action).
There are great videos on YouTube that teach NVC / Compassionate Communication.
Your book and videos aim to be tools for personal transformation. In helping others heal and bring peace into their lives you teach from a borderless spirituality. Regardless of what faith you are, or if you’re of no faith at all, what does it mean to live loved?
Living loved means living and experiencing everything (absolutely everything) AS IF you believe that you are loved, that you are safe, that all is well, and all will be well, no matter what it looks like in this moment.
Living loved means being suspicious of fear, and wondering what important, precious, and delicious treasure fear is trying to hide from you. Most fear (except the instinctive fear that is warning you of immediate life threatening danger) is a paper thin veneer that dissolves as you move forward toward what you love. Love-based actions never harm another, are expansive, open, kind, and lead to wellness and peace.
Living loved means questioning every bit of your worldview that is limited, and negative toward yourself or another, or causes suffering. It is opening your heart and mind to what else is possible? What else is kind and loving?
Phew! Living loved can feel like a big leap, yet it is a leap worth taking. My book, watching my videos, developing a borderless relationship with Love Itself (God), and working with me can help people take that leap. Peace of mind is the result, and who doesn’t need that!
And now for my short answer speed round:
What is your superpower?
My superpower is that I hear the energy and meaning beyond the spoken word. I hear the roots and causes, and assist my clients in getting clear of what holds them back. I guide them in regaining their lost energy and power–from all time, lives, and dimensions, so they can move forward in this life. It feels like a miracle!
What do you feel the world needs more of right now?
I’m going to expand on it and give a few answers here:
- Strong bonding at birth–this will take time, education, and cultural support for moms and dads, to give babies what they need during this vital time for feeling safe and loved. This step alone could transform our culture and our world.
- Nonviolent / Compassionate Communication training in schools.
- Temperament training in schools, so that children, parents, and teachers are all working together to help children know who they are, so they are guided wisely.
What is your idea of earthly happiness?
True happiness comes from looking outward from ourselves, and this often happens best when we are serving, helping, and creating. Of course, for us to relax into happiness, we also need the basics of life: food, shelter, health, culture, and connection. And these basics ought to be available to everyone.
Who are your favorite characters in history?
Jesus is a friend of mine, Yogananda as well. Thomas Jefferson, Abraham Lincoln, Teddy Roosevelt, Eleanor Roosevelt, Martin Luther King, Jr, (I’ve read a lot of history).
Who are your favorite authors?
CS Lewis, Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Dr Seuss, Neil Gaiman, Mercedes Lackey, Agatha Christie, JK Rowling, James Herriot, JRR Tolkien, Ajahn Brahm
Who are your favorite fictional heroes or heroines?
Gandalf in Lord of the Rings
Lucy Pevencie in Chronicles of Naria
Nobody Owens in The Graveyard Book
What is your motto, mantra, or favorite quote?
How often we look upon God as our last and feeblest resource! We go to Him (Love Itself) because we have nowhere else to go. And then we learn that the storms of life have driven us, not upon the rocks, but into the desired haven. –George MacDonald
All is well. All is well. All manner of things shall we well. –Julian of Norwich
To learn more about Marie and living loved, you can:
Find her book, “Living Loved: a path to peace” on Amazon.
Watch her videos on YouTube.
Or contact her directly through her website.
If you are interested in learning more about your personality type, a good place to start is the 16 Personalities website.